Upcoming Summer Workshops for Girls

Crozet workshop:  Summer 2012

Crozet workshop: Summer 2012


Thursday, May 29 at 5:30:  Go Girls!  Program with Kluge Children’s Rehabilitation Center

This on-going program meets every Thursday at 5:30pm (at the Kluge Children’s Rehab Center).  I’ll be joining Anne Gabel this Thursday as she leads Zumba and yoga for the girls and then I’ll be doing a brief talk on staying creative this summer.  There’s dance and movement and a brief talk every week.  Here’s a link for more info!


I’ve been teaching classes for girls (Girls’ Guide to Living Well) and young women that I’d always wished I’d been offered — I would’ve taken them.

What do we talk about?  Body image, leadership, creativity, eating mindfully, self-care and self-respect, academic confidence, building GREAT friendships…basically all the skills to be unflappable.  I coach teens individually — motivating them…encouraging them…mentoring them.  For the past two years I have partnered with the JMR-Library to offer free workshops for girls.  I’m certified to teach K-6.

The next workshops for girls, A Girl’s Guide to Living Well, for ages 10-14 are FREE and scheduled for:

Tuesday, June 24, 2014 from 1pm — 4pm.  It will be held at the Jefferson Madison Regional Library — CROZET BRANCH. A parental permission form is required for all participants. Limit: 10 participants. Call 434.823.4050…ask for Allie.

Tuesday, July 22, 2014 from 1pm — 4pm.  It will be held at the Jefferson Madison Regional Library — Crozet Branch (434.823.4050…ask for Allie)

In addition to my own content, I will be using the “Body Confidence” curriculum provided through the Dove Self-Esteem Fund.  To register, please contact the library for the workshop you would like your daughter or student to attend.

Sunrise Surprise: Just Another Hodgepodge Day at the ol’ Glow Factory



What I put in the juice this morning:

3 heads of Romaine lettuce

3 cucumbers

5 mini carrots

4 celery stalks

2 tablespoons of ginger

3 baby limes

pineapple pieces/pineapple juice (small amount)

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Sometimes you just gotta go with what you’ve got.  Sometimes you get lucky.  This excursion into “dump and go” ended up making three jars of GOOD juice.  The ginger/lime/pineapple combo is great.  I used so little fruit — then when you divide that between three jars — no blood sugar spiking there.

Like a Ton of Bricks


When I was teaching English and drama at a boarding school one summer (back around 1997), a student (he was 14), per the assignment, wrote a non-fiction essay.  He wrote about the time a load of bricks fell on his legs and broke them.  He was a favorite of mine, but for no special reason that I’d nailed down before this — just like picking strawberry over grape.  Maybe a favorite despite how he lived a charmed life — healthy and happy — going to private school — only worrying about whether he’d get a demerit for his untucked shirt.  I felt sure his house had a great porch.

Look, I’ve had my own pile of bricks, okay, and I was only 24. Making assumptions about (everything) the list of other people’s worries was only one of the stupid things I did.

He was funny, paid attention…said interesting things.  He noticed stuff, like the first day all summer that I wore lipstick — the day of the final drama performance.  Not only did he notice — it disturbed him.  Maybe a favorite because he was a watcher, and maybe that marked him as a future writer or actor or painter.

After I read his essay, he was a kid/a somebody who:

–gave me an image I wouldn’t forget

–taught me a lesson in assuming people (at any age) have had it easy or even that having it easy is easy OR good OR possible

–showed me stressful events (at any age) aren’t officially stamped on your forehead (or your legs) or implied in your introduction or hidden like house keys under your flower pot

–elevated himself from preferred student to hero

–was having a good time despite the thing that happened with the bricks

I share the poster below about stress because it’s good to talk about how the way you feel about things shows up in the body.  If I change the title to 17 Reasons to Avoid How You Feel About Things, does that shine a new light AND feel impossible?  Ha!  Suddenly, in my head, I change the Guns n’ Roses lyric to “Take me down to the Paradox City where the grass is green and the girls are pretty…take…me…home (guitar solo kicks in).”

Sleep isn’t always a bad thing to trade. Money isn’t inherently stressful.  Tired sometimes feels good.  I constantly sign-up for things I want — cable, for instance.  Then I grumble grumble about the cable bill.  “Hmmmpff…a hundred and sixty five dollars?  But I barely even watch TV!” I say when I’m not watching TV.  It’s not the bill, though, is it?  It’s the way I think about my bill that’s stressful, right?

The kid/the pet pupil/the watcher/the thirty-something IS a writer.  The way I think about that feels good.  That shows up in my body, too…with a red line pointing to my heart.

The original 17 Reasons To Avoid Stress infographic can be found at http://adrenalfatiguesolution.com/17-reasons-avoid-stress/ .

What the world needs now…Carrot-Ginger Soup and Burt Bacharach

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People say this wine pairs well with this cheese, and this mustard is especially good with this salami.  Well, I say cooking carrot-ginger soup (with orange zest) pairs really well with listening to the Burt Bacharach Radio on Pandora.

I’ve had a need to cook more.  Cook more, fart face, I say to myself.  Then I picked up this new cookbook we got at Christmas, Soup of the Day: 365 Recipes for Every Day of the Year (published by Williams Sonoma by Kate McMillan with photos by Erin Kunkel), and it was a magic moment, indeed.

Because once you start making nutritious soups with lots of seasonal vegetables, you really are going to have one less egg to fry.

Even though it was the 18th of May, I started with the recipe for May 1:  Chilled Carrot Soup with Ginger & Orange Zest.  Also you can call it Loving is a Way of Living.  This is great soup.  I think it’s the orange zest that makes it special.  She offers an alternative: lime or lemon zest and cumin (instead of ginger/orange zest).  I’ll try that next time. You can also heat it up if your like your lips warmer than your heart.  Snack, meal, starter…you’re not going to Walk on By.  You’re gonna wanna bring your Hot Buttered Soul (and baguette) a little closer.

Next, I’m going to try her “Moroccan-Spiced Vegetarian Chili.  You don’t have to make the soup or buy the book, but just remember:  You’ll Never Get into Heaven if You Break My Heart.

Eat Some Clock: how watching sports can help


Brian Moore, sports commentator

Recently, while watching a college football team lose (they were unranked and playing a team ranked 5th in the nation), I jotted down 11 things I heard that could easily apply to anyone trying to change/win/quit sucking/wake up:

1.  Eat some clock.

Because the higher-ranked team with the bigger players also had a huge hustle factor, the commentator said very early in the game that the underdog team needed to “Eat some clock.”  They needed to find a way to slow things down.  Control momentum more.  Run down the time so that these west coast beasts couldn’t keep getting the ball.  This advice applies to many people who are trying to change the way they eat.  People ask me,

“What’s a good snack after dinner?”
Nothing.  Eat some clock.
“What about fruit?”
No.  Eat some clock.  Feel the burn.  You can’t burn fat if you keep eating.  Go to bed.

The other use of “Eat some clock” is this:  you need time…more than a week, more than six weeks, to see what a good habit can mean for you.  One client told me that she’d keep trying “this” for awhile and then see.  What is this?  I’m not recommending a wacky cream, so when you say “this” you mean, “I’m going to try healthy eating for awhile and then I’m going to go back to eating crap and see how that feels.”  I see.

You need time under your belt, not cookies.

2.  It’s gut-check time for the ___________ (fill in your name or the name of your team).

It’s true.  Taking care of yourself comes down to getting in-tune with your gut.  So this could be literal.  Realize that you’re not talking about “losing weight”.  You mean to say that you don’t like your belly.  That’s what people mean.  “Losing weight” is a phrase for magazines.  You can just tell me the truth:  you feel gross and it’s complicated.  I get it.  This could also be spiritual/mental — you have to be more intuitive when it comes to making daily decisions for yourself.  Unless you’ve caught something, most deteriorating health is about unmanaged (or mismanaged) stress.  You have to see how unmanaged stress is taking a toll on your health.

3. It’s time to install their power running game.

Again…you could get literal and log some miles.  Go walking.  Sign up for a race.  Break a sweat.  Move your bohaunkus.  Or…from a “woo-woo” place, this advice is about how your dreaming (or lobbing balls into the end zone) is maybe too ambitious.  It’s not working out.  For instance, you’ve been daydreaming and TALKING about losing twenty pounds, but that’s all it is…TALK.  You need to DO something good for yourself and the weight will take care of itself.  You have to run this ball/dream/goal.  Try to get the first down.  The do, do, do…that’s all I have to say to you.

4.  Boy, did they need that!

Something good happened for the losing team right before this comment.  It was a good sign.  Something positive to pump everyone up.  That’s important.  But it wasn’t a lucky break.  It wasn’t the lottery.  It was something they executed right because they’ve been practicing this stuff since they were in the third grade.  What little break in the weather could you control this week? How’s your practice?

5.  No flag on the play.

There’s no weight loss boss.  There’s no sugar police.  You may get nagged but surely you know how to ignore or work around that.  You want to get buff?  Go for it, but it will be up to you.  You won’t get fired because you haven’t “done your abs” this week.  I’ll say again: it’s up to you (because “nobody cares” is too harsh and not quite accurate).  On the playing field, this means the commentator and definitely the fans caught something that the referees missed.  Yep.  It happens.  Somebody got away with something.  There aren’t really going to be flags on your “plays” unless you’re well down the line of lifestyle-induced disease.

6.  Beautiful play fake!

You don’t need to over-explain what you’re working on to other people.  While I think you need to be supported, I also think you can turn down dessert as if you don’t want it, not like you can’t have it.  It makes the world of difference.  Pretend you’re a really private person who barely eats sweets.  Fake it.  Change means identity change, so start that right away.

7.  He’s gotta dial it in.

That crazy thing you’re doing.  Knock it off.

8.  This has got to be a blinding rhythm.

This goes back to the first comment.  By this time of the game, the winning team was winning because they were so quick to get back in position.  Pace was more integral than talent.  There may be something you have to do (suggestions:  start meditating or start saying no or stop watching so much tv and then telling me that you’re wicked busy all the time when the truth is that you are enjoying screen entertainment from 8pm and until midnight every night and then you wonder why you’re roaming around the kitchen looking for sweets…hear me now:   YOU HAVE UNMANAGED STRESS AND YOU ARE WATCHING OTHER PEOPLE FULFILLING THEIR DREAMS ALL EVENING LONG — THAT TAKES A TOLL ON YOU AND IT’S ABOUT ALOT MORE THAN THE GLARE ON YOUR EYEBALLS).  If you are in the middle of a blinding rhythm, figure out how to step outside it or slow it down.

9.  Our sloppiness…we are beating ourselves.

I notice during halftime interviews that coaches (for the most part) are very into self-examination.  What are we doing that isn’t working?  We’ve got to blah, blah, blah.  I don’t see them blaming others.  They are all about using words like “responsibility”.  Be honest with yourself.  If doctors are supposed to do no harm, then we are supposed to do no self-harm.  That crazy thing you’re doing.  Knock it off.

10.  He has struggled with his accuracy.

That candy bowl at work will interfere with your accuracy.  Snacking will interfere with your accuracy.  Eating out of the box will interfere with your accuracy.  Having a magically-refilling wine glass will mess with your accuracy.

11.  His coaches will tell him.  You gotta do the smart thing.

I bet your breakfast and lunch don’t need a makeover.  I direct you to look at the hours between 4pm and 12am and get back to me.  I know people.  I know me.  I know where the damage is done.  It gets ugly between those hours.  It’s not the dressing on your grilled chicken salad.

If we were practicing this afternoon, we’d only talk a little.  We’d practice more.  I’d try to pump you up.  Get you motivated.  Draw up a game plan.  Fuss at you because that’s what coaches do.  I hope one piece of sideline commentary or sports psychology speaks to you and helps you this week.